Apparently Tiger Woods broke his marriage vows. Repeatedly. And the world is fascinated by this news, which initially perplexed me a little. It's not as if Tiger is the first celebrity, sports hero, or famous person to cheat. Far from it. The list is long but includes names familiar to all of us. So why is everyone so fixated on Tiger's cheating ways? I have a theory.
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There are few things that stir the heart more than dishonesty. Well, there are few things that stir MY heart more. I don't think I expect a lot out of people but I DO expect honesty, decency, and some level of transparency if you're going to be in a "real" relationship with me. Don't tell me one thing and do another. Don't lead me to believe you are someone you aren't. Don't deceive me or yourself. And certainly don't lie to me. Please. I don't feel like that's too much to ask.
There are few things that stir the heart more than dishonesty. Well, there are few things that stir MY heart more. I don't think I expect a lot out of people but I DO expect honesty, decency, and some level of transparency if you're going to be in a "real" relationship with me. Don't tell me one thing and do another. Don't lead me to believe you are someone you aren't. Don't deceive me or yourself. And certainly don't lie to me. Please. I don't feel like that's too much to ask.
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I think people are wrapped up in Tiger's story precisely because he represented himself to be something that he is not. To the world, he was a moral, decent, honest, family man who would "never" engage in the behavior that now makes him infamous. It's the disparity that is causing all of the ruckus. There is a certain amount of cognitive dissonance in understanding who Tiger is and who he is not. And it's sad.
I think people are wrapped up in Tiger's story precisely because he represented himself to be something that he is not. To the world, he was a moral, decent, honest, family man who would "never" engage in the behavior that now makes him infamous. It's the disparity that is causing all of the ruckus. There is a certain amount of cognitive dissonance in understanding who Tiger is and who he is not. And it's sad.
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Seth doesn't yet know what it means to lie, but it seems like kids learn these things earlier all the time. I've watched it happen with my nieces and nephews -- suddenly there is this realization that I could mislead you. And maybe, I could benefit (at least superficially) from doing so. My brother and I were recently talking about how to teach our kids the value of honesty and truth. It isn't easy. We agreed that the best route is through example. See, kids notice everything. If you call a friend and say you can't attend because your son is ill (and he's not) your son notices. If you tell someone on your cell phone that you aren't at home and you are, your daughter will see it. When you lie to your spouse or your boss or your child's teacher, they notice! When I fake it, having just said the opposite in front of Seth, he learns. THAT's where our kids get this bad trait: US. And that's truly unfortunate, because God is very clear on this front:
Seth doesn't yet know what it means to lie, but it seems like kids learn these things earlier all the time. I've watched it happen with my nieces and nephews -- suddenly there is this realization that I could mislead you. And maybe, I could benefit (at least superficially) from doing so. My brother and I were recently talking about how to teach our kids the value of honesty and truth. It isn't easy. We agreed that the best route is through example. See, kids notice everything. If you call a friend and say you can't attend because your son is ill (and he's not) your son notices. If you tell someone on your cell phone that you aren't at home and you are, your daughter will see it. When you lie to your spouse or your boss or your child's teacher, they notice! When I fake it, having just said the opposite in front of Seth, he learns. THAT's where our kids get this bad trait: US. And that's truly unfortunate, because God is very clear on this front:
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"Do not steal. Do not lie. Do not deceive one another." Lev. 19:11
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"My lips will not speak wickedness, and my tongue will utter no deceit." Job 27:4
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"The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful." Prov. 12:22
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"Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator." Col. 3:9-10
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"Keep your tongue from evil, and your lips from speaking deceit." Ps. 34:13
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For my part, instead of engaging in the all-tempting voyeurism of Tiger and his family, I'm going to pray for him. That truth and The Truth would permeate his life and he would be a changed man. Maybe we all have just a little to learn from Tiger's plight about being real, honest, decent, and transparent. I know I do.
For my part, instead of engaging in the all-tempting voyeurism of Tiger and his family, I'm going to pray for him. That truth and The Truth would permeate his life and he would be a changed man. Maybe we all have just a little to learn from Tiger's plight about being real, honest, decent, and transparent. I know I do.
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"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things." Phil. 4:8
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